WHAT IS DISCIPLINE
- Giving your child the tools to succeed in life.
- Doing whatever you have to do to "enjoy" living with your child(ren).
- Discipline is based on building the right relationship with a child more than using the correct
- Helping your child develop inner controls that last a lifetime.
UNDERSTANDING THE WORD "DISCIPLINE"
Many parents equate discipline with reacting to bad behavior. They don't realize
that discipline is mostly what you do to encourage good behavior. It's better to keep a child from falling down in the first
place than to patch up bumps and scrapes after he has taken the tumble.
DISCIPLIE IS EVERYTHING YOU PUT INTO YOUR CHILD
Discipline is everything you put into children that influences how they turn out. But how do
you want your child to turn out? What will your child need from you in order to become the person you want him or her to be?
Whatever your ultimate objectives, they must be rooted in helping your child develop inner controls that last a lifetime.
You want the guidance system that keeps the child in check at age four to keep his behavior on track at age forty, and you
want this system to be integrated into the child's whole personality, a part of him or her. If your child's life were on videotape
and you could fast-forward a few decades, what are the qualities you would like to see in the adult on the tape?
HERE IS OUR WISH LIST FOR OUR CHILDREN:
sense of humor
confidence and solid self-esteem
ability to focus on goals
wisdom to make right choices
ability to form intimate relationships
respect for authority
a sense of responsibility
skills to solve problems
desire to learn
TOP TEN DISCIPLINE PRINCIPLES
1. GET CONNECTED EARLY
2. KNOW YOUR CHILD
A. Know Age-appropriate Behavior
B. Get behind the eyes of your child
3. HELP THE CHILD TO RESPECT AUTHORITY
4. SET LIMITS, PROVIDE STRUCTURE
5. EXPECT OBEDIENCE
6. MODEL DISCIPLINE
7. NURTURE YOUR CHILD'S SELF-CONFIDENCE
8. SHAPE YOUR CHILD'S BEHAVIOR
9. RAISE KIDS WHO CARE
10.TALK AND LISTEN